On a documentary on Thai TV last week I saw some sad news for the moral in this country. Young kids are almost doing anything to get some cash. A year ago it was the Thai students selling sex on Hi5 network and before that it was the warning about Cam frog.
Thai students are now selling sexy webcams over the internet on Thai chat sites and Cam frog in Thailand. Cam frog has been known for a long time to be selling sexy Thai girls but the problem has always been the money transfer. Now the Thai girls (and some Thai boys) have figured out a nice way to get cash. They simple ask you to go buy a True Move or Happy Dtac refill card and give the code to them. Once they used the code they will show you their stuff and they do it for small money like 200 THB.
I do not think a crackdown is the right solution and ban video sites because they will just change to another one. Thailand has to be more equal and the Buddhist values something to be desired again.
I think I wrote about this before but it always funny to talk about it. Asian girls are experts to change their looks in all kind of ways. I remember when I used to date online and got all these nice looking photos and when we finally met it was nothing that felt right.
The Thai girls are using dangerous teeth jewelry and bigger contact lenses and the latest are putting small jewels in their eye lashes. Most of the makeups they are using are cheap and not very good for the skin but it is all they can afford. They do not care about the long term health all they care about is to look good now when they are young.
The real experts on these changes are off course the Thai ladyboys that use extra hormones and other things to make them look like super sexy girls. The ladyboys in Thailand are really the best looking “girls” in Thailand but fame have a cost and the life of a ladyboy is not very long.
Well it is not that bad but when you stayed here for a few years you mind is so set on a high level to sort out all the different lies Thai girls are feeding you. If you brain not developed that feeling yet you probably are working as a permanent ATM now or fled Thailand for better feeding grounds. This is not only based on bar girls I have loads of friends and they have dated all sorts of girls from hi to low so but sadly most foreigners meet only bar girls.
Jai Dee
Some people with good heart as the Thai girls say do not have this ability and believe or morph everything the Thai girl are telling them. That’s why it is so important for a Thai girl to find a guy with good heart “jai dee”. A bar girl can be a waitress after some month and a Go Go worked in a salon when you met. Reality gets very flexible with a good heart guy and they are easy to brain wash. If the good hearted guy has a shy and abnormal personality the Thai girl knows she hit the jackpot. Why do you think a good looking girl would marry a old, ugly and fat Thai or foreign man?
Dating a Thai girl
The lie in the normal conversation almost kills the normal dating in Thailand because your mind is fixed on detecting lies that you don’t enjoy the date.
She might tell you that she works in a hair salon
Your brain heard that 100 times before it is a cover for working freelance in discos.
She might tell you she not have a passport or never been abroad
Not this month you mind will reply
She might tell you she does not have a boyfriend
But maybe a lover, sponsor or husband your mind might reply
She might till you she is from Bangkok
Maybe you moved there last year your mind replies.
She might tell you she has a car
And you want me to pay the lease your mind replies
She tells you she owns her own business
Well freelance bar girl is also your own business your mind replies
She tells you she slept with a foreigner
Not today your mind replies
I am a student she tells you proudly
I love to see your student uniform and then your mind probably say yea you study English at some dump your sponsor paid.
They seldom lies about if they have a baby because it will show pretty fast but if they have a baby they are probably married in their home village as well.
Small lies get bigger
But all these small voices and traps in your mind will make a date very difficult and boring and if your mouth always says what your mind thinks you will have a very short date.
Even meeting a new girl in a disco is almost impossible because you will assume that all the girls that talk to you are hookers and the once not talking to you are normal girls but when you talk to them your mind will think they are lying.
Now the problem is that western and Thai culture have different rules for lie even small lies will blow up in proportion since your defense is so on alert.
There is no real solution to this problem your mind have jaded itself against disappointments’ and only a relationship with a Thai girl that do not lie (good luck with that) for a long time will soften your defense.
Dive in and enjoy the ride
The other option is just to dive in with no expectations and just take it for what it is, like the first time you came to Thailand. The girls were all virgins and the girl in the bar were just there to see her sister and she never dated a foreigner before. Maybe just say yes I believe you to everything she says and never questing anything, give her anything she wants expect the key to your wallet and heart.
Western men have fancied Thai women since the Vietnam War when many Americans were station around Pattaya and also in Isaan.
During the Vietnam War the American soldiers have the Thai women as second wives and some became girlfriends or wives as well after the war.
The first western men in Isaan
The first western males that moved to Isaan were probably in for a culture shock and the Thai people were probably as shocked as well. The culture and the financially differences were probably a big problem. Until this day many Thais think that there is no such thing as a poor foreigner, we all walk on gold streets.
Most of them were not that rich if you see it to western standards but for a Thai person they were. Most of them moved backed to the villages with their Thai wife’s when they had enough of the bar life in Pattaya or Bangkok.
Western Men bring money to Thailand
The Social Development Board of Thailand have counted the Thai girls that are married with foreigners and only in the North East if Thailand there is over 20 000 Thai women married with foreigners.
From the same numbers from the year 2003 they estimated that the mixed Thai marriages have created 578 609 jobs in and brought in over 10 billion THB to Thailand.
They have not counted all the Thai girls that went abroad and are sending money home or the once that are married but live in Bangkok.
Greed and Jealousy
The new rich Thai girls in the villages will fast become the crème de la crop in the community and it created a big gap between them and the others that do not have a western husband.
In some villages you will have up to 100 western men living with their Thai wives and the rest of the village will off course look to the married Thai girl as the fastest way to get money. Why work or study when all you have to do is to get a western man to work for you?
It creates a big spending spree when the different wife’s trying to bid over each other on who has the riches husband and this is not very Buddhist.
It also keeps the Thai female uneducated and lazy since they know all they have to do is to get a western male to get rich.
Thai male turn into girls
The mothers will tell the Thai girls that if they not like the Thai husbands anymore they can just leave and go get a foreign husband.
The Thai boys have little choice in this life but to turn gay or become a ladyboy if they want to get the same wealth that quick.
Some off course become lovers of the Thai girls when their husbands leave for their home countries or go back to their countries for a while.
It is not a match made in heaven
Even if the delusional male western man think this is about love and that Thai girl really love older men we all know that this is a business deal with sex benefits.
Several studies have shown that the Thai girl looking for older a older man not because of that he is handsome but because he has income and he will have no power to “butterfly” around with other girls.
If she is very young she will be in her prime when he dies and she can pick a new husband that she loves or if she is older she want to have security on her older days.
Western males that pursue this as a love affair will often go back to their countries after a few years lonely, sad and poor after the Thai girl slept with another man behind his back.
The Thai girl often gets the better part of the divorce and can stay rich because she has the children as bargain power. If she ends up with no money she will simple get another man and she do not think much about it, it was not about love anyway for them.
